Below are three scenarios that illustrate shared experiences of suvivors of suicide. They are meant to help you understand that you are not alone and that being prepared for questions is an important coping mechanism.
Your oldest child has taken her life. You have two other children. Some months after the death you are introduced to an individual who is not familiar with you or your family. In addition to asking the usual getting to know you questions, like “What do you?’ the individual asks “Do you have children?” When you answer “Yes”, the next question is “How many?” What do you say?
Your partner has died by suicide. When you return to work, you are approached by a colleague who politely and gently expresses interest in knowing more about his death. The co-worker asks “How did he died?” and “Did you find him?” What do you say?
Your sibling died by suicide five years ago. You occasionally still find yourself tearful, especially when reminiscing about the way you enjoyed his taunts and teases. Some in your family feel that you should have “moved on”, saying things like “Hasn’t it has been long enough?”
Abbington Jefferson Health provides peer support groups for grieving children, teens, and adults in Pennsylvania.